What Have We Learned?
Sure, we learned about the process. These are the kinds of things we share
in this book. We learned to plan, to recruit, to moderate, and to analyze.
And we keep learning new things about the process. That is the head stuff.
It is .important because it allows us to learn the more important stuff.
The stuff that changes us as people. The heart and gut stuff.
Through focus groups, we have gotten tiny glimpses of worlds that we otherwise
do not experience. What it is like to suffer from psychosis. What it is
like to live with someone who has severe and chronic depression. What
it is like to be a veteran. What it is like to be a new mom. What it is
like to be a parent of a child who attends special education classes.
What it is like to be beaten and degraded by someone you love. What it
is like to be a second-grade boy. Why farmers feel they are unjustly blamed
for environmental issues. How young Black urban men view guns. How environmentalists
are torn between publicizing treasured resources so people can enjoy them
and keeping them a secret so they won't be destroyed. How the views of
frontline health care providers differ from views of management. What
it is like for Hmong parents who have to rely on their children to read
letters from school because the parents can't read English.
Some of the stories we have heard have been funny, some have been uplifting,
and some have haunted us for years. These stories have changed us. We
have learned that there are always multiple realities. Depending on where
a person is in the world, he or she sees things differently. By carefully
listening, we get an image of how they think and feel and why. Because
of this, we hope we've learned to be less judgmental. We hope we've learned
more about how to treat people with respect. We hope we've learned to
hear the wisdom that people share. We hope we've learned to be trustworthy
messengers. We know we have learned that it is an honor to sit with people
and hear their stories.
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